Love is Timing…

Is it not? Isn’t this just another translation of the word (we girls love so much) fate?
Oh, it happened so unexpectedly, it was like magic- all meant to be.
Or is it just a question of timing, whether good or bad.
Sure, there are other deciding factors to whether or not a relationship works.
But without proper timing, no relationship can start.

Judging People

I haven’t written much here lately, kind of lost the will to. But today, I was just thinking about how we really shouldn’t judge other people, especially if we don’t know them– and I mean KNOW them. Sure, you hear things about them, see them them once or twice, have mutual friends- but so what? That doesn’t mean you know them one bit. But after those few occasions an opinion (whether positive or negative) is already formed. I, myself do this at times, and it’s just human nature I guess. But now that I think back on it, I really had no right to pass such judgements on people I hardly know. It’s so ironic how differently you can see people once you get to know them. Sometimes, that may not be a good thing. Such is life. We live and we learn. So cliche, I know, but it’s trite for a reason.

toxic people

This was written by Cheri ; I just find it to be so true and easy to relate to at the moment.

There have been so many times where I’ve just tried to tell someone that we don’t click, and we shouldn’t be together. But for whatever freaky fuckin’ reason, they still want to stick around and go through this huge drama with me until shit escalates so far that we can’t even be fucking friends anymore.

Whatever.

This morning, G and I talked.
We’re just not going to hang out anymore.
Not going to talk.
Not going to see each other.
That’s it.
We aren’t even friends.
It’s totally unhealthy.
It’s just poison.

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There’s the phrase, “If you think I’m too high maintenance, that just means you can’t afford me.” And it really does apply to a lot of things (not just things of monetary value). It means that a man should be willing to invest time in you in a relationship. It means that a man should be able to take your bullshit like a rock if it comes to that point without snapping on you. It means that a man should be mature enough to handle your ups and downs like an adult. It means a whole lot of shit, really.

I’m a woman.
I get crazy.
We all know that.
We all do this.

But a woman’s love is like no other love on earth. And if you mine through that coal hard enough, you’ll get that diamond.

So when a man busts his ass to be around you when he could be with his friends instead, or drops all of his plans because he finds your silly little face 10x more interesting than everything else he’s doing, then believe me: You’re the shit and you can do no wrong. He sees you as his love. He sees you as a source of happiness in his life. As his sunshine. So when a man treats you like that? THAT’S when you’ll know it’s okay to give him the same love in return.

Agree/Disagree

We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.

Just Live

There are times where we may feel frustrated, stressed out and hopeless. We feel like giving up and throwing in the towel but then there are those who suck it up and get through it. I really admire these people who have persevered because they set a great example for the rest of us. It’s true that there’s always someone who has it worse, so why should we even complain? I know it’s a bit hypocritical of me to say this but from now on, I will seriously try and complain less (not stating that I’m stopping because at wouldt make me a liar.) Things really aren’t that bad after all.

And for those who give up and actually take their own lives, I have nothing to say but “I’m sorry.” I’m sorry no one was there to help them before it was too late. I’m sorry, they really believed their lives were that bad.

Then there are those who use the concept of taking their own lives in order to threaten others. These people disgust me because they know that life isn’t that bad and yet just because they can’t get what they want, it’s automatically pointless to live. Think again.

“There was something that seemed utterly inevitable about the moment. Not in any grand, destined sense; just in the quiet, stubborn way that unfinished business has of imposing its will on the unwilling.”

“But maybe that’s what it all comes down to. Love, not as a surge or passion, but as a choice to commit to something, someone, no matter what obstacles or tempations stand in the way. And maybe making that choice, again and again, day in and day out, year after year, says more about love than never having a choice to make at all.”